45:37 Can you go back to what you were mentioning?
45:38 Because I'd love to dive a little bit deeper.
45:40 You said you approached your career in a masculine way
45:45 and now you have a new vantage point with a feminine approach.
45:49 What are some examples where,
45:53 okay, this is a more masculine approach
45:56 to this particular thing or problem
45:57 or higher setting of your career.
45:59 And this could be another feminine approach
46:00 that opens up new opportunities.
46:03 What are some examples of the juxtaposition
46:06 of those two things?
46:08 Yeah, I think I used fear and intimidation a lot
46:14 earlier in my career.
46:16 And I think that I can articulate it
46:21 as fear and intimidation now.
46:23 What it probably felt or looked like more at the time
46:27 was certainty of decision and authority.
46:32 But I think that the way that it was expressed,
46:36 the certainty of decision and authority
46:38 was expressed in a way where I need you
46:40 to be a little bit afraid of me.
46:41 So you move it, right?
46:45 And I think that it's almost subconscious in a way.
46:49 But I mean, even the way I used to dress Anthony,
46:51 like I, good God, I would like,
46:54 wear these big high heels and leather jackets.
46:57 And like, I was designed to intimidate you.
47:00 It was my whole deal.
47:02 I was like, I had just made this persona that was like,
47:06 let's go.
47:10 Right.
47:10 And that sort of willingness to fight
47:17 that scrappiness, I mean, is something
47:21 that I drew from my history.
47:23 I understood it really well.
47:24 And when I got into business and I got around
47:26 how the men around me operated, I was like,
47:29 oh, I know how to do this.
47:30 Check.
47:31 I have this cold.
47:33 I can do this.
47:35 But I think the result it produces
47:37 is teams who are a little afraid of you,
47:40 teams who are a little scared to speak up.
47:44 So you don't really get collaboration.
47:49 You don't really know what's going on inside your org
47:53 because you're something other than them.
47:54 You're above them.
47:55 You're up here.
47:57 And I think as I've shifted that position,
48:00 one of the things I like to do is really like drop
48:03 into the rep level because I like to talk to customers a lot.
48:08 Like I like to talk to customers and prospects.
48:10 I actually like really like to be out in the field.
48:14 All the like board level stuff and the capacity planning
48:18 and all the boring stuff.
48:19 I know.
48:19 No, being in the field is a blast.
48:21 It's a blast.
48:22 So but if you can get down with a rep
48:25 and watch what's happening to them and really listen to them
48:29 and be with them, you learn so much more
48:32 about how your organization is operating
48:34 that you're not going to get out of Salesforce or HubSpot or Gong.
48:38 And I'm sorry, you can listen to Gong calls all day long.
48:41 It is different when you're sitting with somebody
48:44 listening and watching their process.
48:47 There's a layer of emotion that you gather in that process
48:52 that you simply can't gather from condensing Gong calls
48:55 into AI summaries.
48:56 You just can't do it.
48:58 So I think that's the contrast for me.
49:01 I think it makes a lot of sense.
49:04 For me, the best management leadership training
49:07 I've had is being a father because you learn that.
49:13 You're like, okay, especially as they're getting older.
49:17 You know, okay, I have to have boundaries,
49:20 but if I overdo it, then they won't tell me the truth
49:23 or they'll hide things from me.
49:25 And like you have to be loving, but have a level of respect.
49:29 And I think towing that line as a dad
49:34 has been a really interesting experience
49:36 that I always take back to work.
49:39 And I think if you can get the team,
49:43 I don't like calling companies like families necessarily,
49:47 but I do think there's a level of trust, cooperation.
49:51 And I think that has been the best training I've had.
49:53 Better than any, you know, I went to business school.
49:56 I had plenty of leadership trainings and all that stuff.
49:58 I don't think there's anything better
49:59 than trying to raise new humans.
50:03 I totally agree with you.
50:04 And it's funny, you know, I have four kids.
50:07 Some of them are in their 20s now.
50:09 My youngest one's eight.
50:10 And I was never like that masculine way with my children, right?
50:16 I was always like, I understood the balance in motherhood
50:20 of strength and softness together.
50:25 And then that was my model to bring it into business
50:29 because you don't, softness is not weak.
50:33 It's not weak at all.
50:35 It can be quite strong if it's applied the right way.
50:39 And I think that was, it's an interesting thing
50:41 that you brought that up about parenting.
50:44 I think that's an access point for people
50:47 to really like lead with heart
50:49 as opposed to like just being up here grinding
50:51 in your head all the time, trying to figure it out,
50:52 trying to work through it.
50:54 Certainly you need to work through things,
50:55 but really understanding what's going on,
51:00 I think, I don't know, it like sits lower in your body.
51:03 That makes a ton of sense.
51:05 It makes a ton of sense,
51:06 especially depends on what mission you're on.
51:09 You know, I'm the founder of LeanScale.
51:12 I'm here to build something to last.
51:13 So I'm not coming in for a quick turnaround mission
51:17 and jetting out.
51:18 And maybe there's time and place for those,
51:21 that type of leadership.
51:22 But I think if you're building something to last
51:26 and you have to win the hearts and minds of your team,
51:28 make sure you have the right type of people on the team,
51:31 it's a very, very challenging thing to do.
51:33 Yeah.
51:34 And I think, you know, it's important to note,
51:36 like it doesn't mean you're a pushover, right?
51:38 I'm not a-
51:39 Agreed.
51:41 Yeah.
51:41 I think part of, you know, you said that healthy boundary,
51:44 like part of the strength of it is holding people accountable
51:49 and being clear about your expectations.
51:51 And instead of sort of that fear of enforcement,
51:54 that like creating an environment
51:56 where they want to make you proud.
51:59 And that's reciprocal.
52:01 So I think that's exciting.
52:03 I think it is too.
52:04 And I think if you're going to build something special,
52:07 especially as teams move around,
52:09 we talked about how hard it is to hire and find the right people.
52:13 But as you go through your career,
52:15 and if you approach things that way,
52:17 I mean, I have people here at LeanScale.
52:21 I have a couple of family members.
52:23 So I had to have a good childhood.
52:25 I mean, it went all the way back to the beginning.
52:28 I have people that I've worked with at various companies
52:32 throughout my career.
52:33 And you never know.
52:34 You have no idea that this relationship
52:37 or the respect they have for you or what you've built
52:40 will actually turn into something later too.
52:43 You just have no clue how those dots are going to get connected.
52:46 So I do think you have to approach it every day where,
52:48 yeah, you can't be a cupcake.
52:49 I love the way you put it.
52:51 Can't be a pushover.
52:53 You have to stay strong in what you believe in.
52:56 But also, you have to have grace for certain things.
52:58 And then also have empathy for the people in the field
53:02 and what they're doing.
53:02 And be honest with if you've done a good job as a leader
53:06 to set them up to be successful.
53:10 I think that's right.